Sometimes we fear the fear more than the thing itself. What I mean is that we build up an issue to be so big, that we actually lose sight of the actual issue, instead focusing on the fear caused by the issue.
An obvious example would be school exams. Right now, thousands of kids are taking GCSE’s and I suspect many of them, like I was at the time, are fearing the fear rather than the issue at hand. What if I flunk them all, what if I don’t know any of the answers, what if I do really badly in my favourite subjects?
Worrying about these outcomes wasn’t good for my health and certainly didn’t make for better performance in those exams. Perhaps I would have been better served to address the issue, the fact that I hadn’t revised in this case, well in time to do so! I would certainly have got better grades and suffered far less stress.
Now decades later I find myself equally guilty of putting off important decisions for fear of the fear not the issue itself. I can vouch for the fact that doing so has had an adverse effect on my health and wellbeing and all of this could have been avoided had I acted sooner and addressed the issue at hand.
Sometimes, it is easier said than done, I get that, believe me. And sometimes we just need a little help to deal with the fear and focus on the issue.
We are writing to all our clients this month inviting them to participate in some ground-breaking research into “Stress & Strain” in the workplace, but focusing on the first line management/supervisor roles.
The research is being supervised and conducted by Professor Patricia Riddell and we hope as many of our clients participate as possible, so the output is optimised. If you are not currently a client, you are unable to participate, but please drop Nelly@elephantsdontforget.com if you would like sight of the depersonalised research output.